The quote above belongs to Gerard Butler. He said it in an interview about dating and he does have a point. This might be the reality for some women, just like there are men who are just drawn to bitchy and manipulative women who break their hearts. The idea that women just love and can’t get enough of bad boys has inspired endless songs, books and scripts. But one group’s reality is another group’s myth. For me, it is a myth. It’s an excuse for men who do not want to understand what a girl really wants or to give themselves an excuse to act like jackasses. Here’s a quote from the hilarious TV show Friends- which I love:

Chandler: You are such a nice guy means I am going to be dating leather-wearing alcoholics and complaining about them to you… (season 01,episode 03, part before the opening credits)

Now, most of you probably know that Chandler was not a leather wearing alcoholic and he was a reasonably nice guy but his dating record sucked because he just couldn’t handle it when a girl actually acted normal. He once obsessed over a girl not calling him and waited by the phone for days and when it turned out that she really didn’t get his messages so she came to see him, he labeled her desperate and was turned off. Mind you, this is the same guy who stared at the phone for days!!!

I don’t like bad guys. I love hot men, which is not the same thing. A man isn’t hot because he is bad. Acting like an asshole is a turn-off, at least for me. Take Jon Bon Jovi for an example. I love the fact that he is happily married (and to his high school sweetheart that is) with kids – not because my biological clock is ticking or something (I don’t want kids like ever and I am in no rush to get married) but because it is impressive when a rocker that famous and that gorgeous can be loyal and committed, which makes him seem even more attractive to me. Now, I don’t know if he has cheated. I hope he hasn’t- if he has- it takes some serious hotness points. Sure, I will still think he is gorgeous- but I wouldn’t respect him the same. And if a guy cheats, he deserves some serious ass- kicking and to find himself out the door, hot or not.

Jon Bon Jovi. Now Jon has been married to the same woman since 1989. Hats off.

My point is?

Loyalty= Hot

Bad Ass Behavior such as Cheating = Not!

Maybe we help inspire bad boy myths as well. I mean we watch movies and fall for characters like Patrick Swayze‘s Johnny Castle in Dirty Dancing.

Patrick Swayze symbolized everything a woman could want in a man. He had been happily married for over 30 years with his wife when he died. He has been with her since he was 19. Now, that's hot.

Johnny does wear leather and boy, does he look good in it. He is handsome and beautiful. He is a dancer so he does have the body to die for. He sleeps around with the women at the holiday resort he is working at. Now, why shouldn’t he? Women want him. But girls do not fall for Johnny because of it. They fall for him because he is a nice guy and he just stops messing around when he starts dating Baby (his love interest in Dirty Dancing). That’s what makes his character so irresistable- the commitment he makes, even though every female wants him. A good face and a body are fine features, but it is the romantic gestures we love. Oh, and how vulnerable he can be despite the muscles is also very adorable,in the sexiest way. The video below (sorry, the owner doesn’t allow posting it here) shows why women of all generations love Johnny Castle/Patrick Swayze

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpmILPAcRQo&feature=fvw

The Ugly Truth shows that the truth doesn’t have to be ugly if you can get the person you want and get them by being exactly who you are. The overly confident, sexually experienced and very good-looking character Mike Chadway is all fun and games and teaches Abby (Katherine Heigl) how to manipulate a guy, talks openly about every dirty thing that crosses a guy’s mind. But when he actually starts to like Abby, his confidence disappears. The scene where he is trying to get the guts to go to her room and tell her how he feels is what makes the character Mike so likeable. Sure, Gerard Butler is always hot – so naturally Mike is a hunk, but it is not until Abby sees what he is like with his nephew, that she starts to like him. In the beginning of the movie, Mike just stops being sexy the minute he starts talking.

Who wants a guy who talks about blow-jobs,wedges and asses for fun and for a living???

Gerard Butler is hot. So is his Mike Chadway in the Ugly Truth. But there are all lovels of hotness. And the cuter Mike acts, the hotter he looks.

After this scene, Abby just struggles with her self not to make out with Mike and of course can’t help it in the end. Not because he is a jerk. But he can so dance.

Some guys are so attractive that you think they are probably jerks. The ego issues and all that. What’s really hot is a guy who is not really a bad guy but just is misunderstood. You see, Gerry- we don’t like you because we think you are a bad-ass. We like you because you are funny, you can make fun of yourself and you are nice to people. And it is OK if you are sleeping around, you are single!!!

Anyway, if the whole badass theory was entirely correct, romantic comedies with all the romantic good boys wouldn’t be such a profitable industry. You can look like a bad boy. It is hot. Being one, not so much!

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Setting a news page as my homepage was a bad idea. I wake up, turn on my computer and bam! Something awful greets me. Today the first news I got was about Patrick Swayze’s death. I knew he had cancer and things weren’t looking good and everything; but I was really hoping that he would beat it. He didn’t and I am just one of the fans he left behind. You see, Patrick was one of the first actors I saw on big screen. My parents took me to see Dirty Dancing when I was 3 years old. Of course I  don’t remember that but my out-going,dance-addicted, rock-n-roll loving nature and my soft spot for men who can dance, look good in jeans and leather- and are manly; yet still have that romantic nature- definitely developed thanks to that movie. Oh yes, Patrick’s character Johnny Castle ruined a lot of girls forever. He was hunky, had an amazing voice both speaking and singing- (songs he has written and performs are featured in the film).  He was loyal to the girl he fell for her and well, he was cool!!! He was my fav. Johnny and I still take him over Johnny Depp and any of his characters anytime.

Dirty Dancing (1987)

How many times have you seen this movie? I don’t remember but I never get tired of it. It’s not just about the romance. It is the fantasy of the sexy holiday fling and the even sexier concept of dirty dancing. It feels great. I used it to seduce, to be seduced, to pick up the boy I like…I use it to have fun when out with friends and to have a laugh. I do it at home to exercise and have helluva lot of fun doing it…I love the music, the time it represents… 

I don’t care how subjective it is going to sound but I’m going to have to refer to Jennifer Grey as the luckiest bitch of the 80s. Yes, of course I’m jealous that she starred in two movies with Patrick. But look at Dirty Dancing. Look at her, and the theme of the movie. She is not exactly one of the prettiest stars. I am not saying she was miscast, she definitely looked the part she was playing: innocent, idealistic (even bordering on naive), romantic. She was average looking and the fact that Johnny fell for her, is like the ultimate fairy tale. But I love dancing. And she got to dance with Johnny- and I am underlining this fact because Patrick is the dancer son of a dancer mother; married to a dancer. I would love to have been in Jennifer’s shoes…

Oh yes: all my identities are deadly jealous of Jennifer: the dreamer/ the wannabe actress/dancer/movie-maker/writer/the woman…

And then..Ghost!!! You have seen Ghost. You must have had.

GHOST  (1990)

This is the story of Sam: A guy who loves his girlfriend (Demi Moore) but isn’t so great at expressing it. One day he is murdered by his best friend and remains existing as a ghost…Sam’s journey includes the things he does to try to adapt his form, the funny adventure he has to with the nutty medium (Whoopy Goldbeg) and the obstacles to protect his  girlfriend- and of course the obstacles that get in his way. It is very funny and deeply emotional. If you can’t hear,touch or see someone how can you convince someone you exist?

He has done other good stuff too that I enjoyed. He  makes a wonderful, adrenaline-junkie bad guy: Point Break. The movie is one of my favorite action flicks. Keanu Reeves is the good guy, Patrick is the bad guy. Patrick’s team robs banks wearing president masks, right after the surfing season ends. Keanu learns how to surf and pretends to be one of the guys,as a required by F.B.I.

POINT BREAK (1991)

Sure, he had critically acclaimed roles in critically acclaimed movies. But these three, and especially the first two- are owned by him.

I met Johnny Castle first. And I am still in love with both the movie and the character of Johnny. It is the type of movie most guys hate, the type of movie that has such a sexy male character that boys you know in real life are intimidated. Man seem like kids. When you meet guys who can not dance, you think “What the…?”…

Dancer,actor, singer… Patrick Swayze will always remain as that gorgeous guy who stole your heart when you were a teen and yet still remained as one of biggest crushed. You can grow out of a lot of things, but Patrick is not one of them.

Rest in peace. We miss you already.

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