Girls and Badasses
“Nothing like a bad ass to make a girl’s heart beat faster.”
The quote above belongs to Gerard Butler. He said it in an interview about dating and he does have a point. This might be the reality for some women, just like there are men who are just drawn to bitchy and manipulative women who break their hearts. The idea that women just love and can’t get enough of bad boys has inspired endless songs, books and scripts. But one group’s reality is another group’s myth. For me, it is a myth. It’s an excuse for men who do not want to understand what a girl really wants or to give themselves an excuse to act like jackasses. Here’s a quote from the hilarious TV show Friends- which I love:
Chandler: You are such a nice guy means I am going to be dating leather-wearing alcoholics and complaining about them to you… (season 01,episode 03, part before the opening credits)
Now, most of you probably know that Chandler was not a leather wearing alcoholic and he was a reasonably nice guy but his dating record sucked because he just couldn’t handle it when a girl actually acted normal. He once obsessed over a girl not calling him and waited by the phone for days and when it turned out that she really didn’t get his messages so she came to see him, he labeled her desperate and was turned off. Mind you, this is the same guy who stared at the phone for days!!!
I don’t like bad guys. I love hot men, which is not the same thing. A man isn’t hot because he is bad. Acting like an asshole is a turn-off, at least for me. Take Jon Bon Jovi for an example. I love the fact that he is happily married (and to his high school sweetheart that is) with kids – not because my biological clock is ticking or something (I don’t want kids like ever and I am in no rush to get married) but because it is impressive when a rocker that famous and that gorgeous can be loyal and committed, which makes him seem even more attractive to me. Now, I don’t know if he has cheated. I hope he hasn’t- if he has- it takes some serious hotness points. Sure, I will still think he is gorgeous- but I wouldn’t respect him the same. And if a guy cheats, he deserves some serious ass- kicking and to find himself out the door, hot or not.
Jon Bon Jovi. Now Jon has been married to the same woman since 1989. Hats off.
My point is?
Loyalty= Hot
Bad Ass Behavior such as Cheating = Not!
Maybe we help inspire bad boy myths as well. I mean we watch movies and fall for characters like Patrick Swayze’s Johnny Castle in Dirty Dancing.
Patrick Swayze symbolized everything a woman could want in a man. He had been happily married for over 30 years with his wife when he died. He has been with her since he was 19. Now, that's hot.
Johnny does wear leather and boy, does he look good in it. He is handsome and beautiful. He is a dancer so he does have the body to die for. He sleeps around with the women at the holiday resort he is working at. Now, why shouldn’t he? Women want him. But girls do not fall for Johnny because of it. They fall for him because he is a nice guy and he just stops messing around when he starts dating Baby (his love interest in Dirty Dancing). That’s what makes his character so irresistable- the commitment he makes, even though every female wants him. A good face and a body are fine features, but it is the romantic gestures we love. Oh, and how vulnerable he can be despite the muscles is also very adorable,in the sexiest way. The video below (sorry, the owner doesn’t allow posting it here) shows why women of all generations love Johnny Castle/Patrick Swayze
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpmILPAcRQo&feature=fvw
The Ugly Truth shows that the truth doesn’t have to be ugly if you can get the person you want and get them by being exactly who you are. The overly confident, sexually experienced and very good-looking character Mike Chadway is all fun and games and teaches Abby (Katherine Heigl) how to manipulate a guy, talks openly about every dirty thing that crosses a guy’s mind. But when he actually starts to like Abby, his confidence disappears. The scene where he is trying to get the guts to go to her room and tell her how he feels is what makes the character Mike so likeable. Sure, Gerard Butler is always hot – so naturally Mike is a hunk, but it is not until Abby sees what he is like with his nephew, that she starts to like him. In the beginning of the movie, Mike just stops being sexy the minute he starts talking.
Who wants a guy who talks about blow-jobs,wedges and asses for fun and for a living???
Gerard Butler is hot. So is his Mike Chadway in the Ugly Truth. But there are all lovels of hotness. And the cuter Mike acts, the hotter he looks.
After this scene, Abby just struggles with her self not to make out with Mike and of course can’t help it in the end. Not because he is a jerk. But he can so dance.
Some guys are so attractive that you think they are probably jerks. The ego issues and all that. What’s really hot is a guy who is not really a bad guy but just is misunderstood. You see, Gerry- we don’t like you because we think you are a bad-ass. We like you because you are funny, you can make fun of yourself and you are nice to people. And it is OK if you are sleeping around, you are single!!!
Anyway, if the whole badass theory was entirely correct, romantic comedies with all the romantic good boys wouldn’t be such a profitable industry. You can look like a bad boy. It is hot. Being one, not so much!
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yeah its looking pretty correct
Mate, who are you agreeing with? me or gerard butler? I’m confused